Here’s what I’ve been thinking about and pondering the past few weeks. Let me see if I can write it in a way that makes sense — and if it doesn’t make sense, challenge me! I’m still getting my head around this idea.
Let’s start with the idea that our thoughts create our reality. It doesn’t really matter HOW you think that happens. It could be that you believe sort of an energetic model that our thoughts are energy and so is everything else, and there’s power in our thoughts to shift energy in various directions. It could be that you believe in a divine being or a loving universe who answers prayers — i.e., responds to our thoughts. (I think I believe some mixture of those two ideas). Or you could simply take a more material, scientific view that some human somewhere what to think of (imagine) your car before it came into existence, the clothes you’re wearing, etc. And tell me where I’m wrong, but I’m guessing that most of us could agree that whether we choose to think positively or negatively about a situation has a huge effect on how we experience it — in other words, we change situations simply by how we think about them.
Anyway, if our thoughts create our reality, then why to we so often not get the good things we want? Let’s say, for example, that you’re longing and longing for a life partner. You dream about (think about, imagine) her or him constantly. You can FEEL what it would be like to have them in your life. Maybe you do specific exercises to try to manifest them, like writing out all the qualities you want in them. And you do all kinds of self-work to be a good, loving partner.
So here’s one of the things that I think is going on that blocks us. When we focusing so much on the asking part, what’s actually going on inside us is that we’re truly focusing more on the LACK OF WHAT WE WANT. All that longing and wanting actually highlights the gap between our life as it is now, and the dream of what it would be like with the awesome partner. So we THINK we’re putting out energy to the universe of what we want, or we THINK we’re praying for what we want, but WE’RE ACTUALLY JUST FIXATING ON WHAT WE DON’T HAVE!!!!!!!
All that wanting and longing is actually just more scarcity thinking!
And this applies whether you want that life partner, a better job, more money, to follow your life’s purpose, or whatever.
ASKING usually makes most of us feel our lack more acutely!!!!!
So what to do?
Just for a day or two, try this: focus on the fact that YOU ARE A MAGICAL BEING, and you’re creating a magical life for yourself, but set aside your specific desires for the moment. (You can have them all back once you’ve tried this experiement.) 🙂 Just become aware of everything you’re creating around you — the things you want and the things you don’t want. Just pay attention. “Hey, I just manifested that!!!!! Wow!!!” Or “Eeewwwww, I just manifested that. I need to take responsibility. What do I need to learn or change so I don’t to THAT again.”
If you try this, let us know what happens! I’ve been playing with it for a few weeks, and I am in awe of what I’m manifesting in my life just by letting go of the specifics.
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