Loved

Do you know right now that you are loved by the Divine?

Do you know right now that the infinite love that is this universe we are all part of — do you know that that love loves YOU? Like REALLY loves you?

Do you know that All That Is is saying right now, “Sweet [your name], I love you, I love you, I love you.”?

You are not only surrounded by that miracle of love, you are infused with it, through and through. YOU, my friend. These words are for YOU, right now.

You are LOVED!!!

Does a doubt pop into mind, something like, ‘Cynthia wouldn’t be writing that if she knew who I really am?’ Or do you think, ‘Well, God is just loving me because she/he/it is obligated to love everyone?’

Baloney. That’s a big pile of poo.

You, [insert your name here so it might sink in this time], are loved by Infiniteness in a way that’s particular to YOU. Not some wishy-washy generic love for humanity in general. You are loved in your own individual you-ness. Everything. All of it. From your one eye that doesn’t track quite right to your fondness for coconut yogurt to the polish peeling off your toenails — YOU.

Are you starting to get it? The God within you and completely transcending you, the energy that holds your atoms together so you don’t fly apart, the consciousness that you are part of —

IT’S ALL IN LOVE WITH YOU!!!!!!! IN FACT, IT’S PRACTICALLY SWOONING WITH DELIGHT that the tiniest bit of this thought is sinking in to you right now.

Love! Love! Love!

Breathe it in right now, beautiful one!

YOU ARE LOVED!

Why Is It So Hard to Attract the ‘Big Stuff’?

Why is it so hard to create the Big Seven???

First, what are the Big Seven? I just made this list up, but I think it includes most of what we yearn for in our lives.

1. The love of our life, soulmate, life partner, or a better/deeper relationship with our existing beloved.
2. Money — and not just enough to scrape by, but enough to be comfortable and enjoy doing/having what we love.
3. Purpose/career/job/mission/business/work — this is the way that we bring our unique and special magic to the world, and get satisfaction from our contribution.
4. Health — our physical bodies — fitness, weight, healing from disease, body image, etc.
5. Magic in Times of Crisis — magic for those times when we desperately cry out to the Divine to change something or cause something to happen — “HELP!!!!!!”
6. Deep connections in addition to our primary partner — healthy friendships, healthy connections with relatives.
7. Goodness for the people we love — this includes all the longings we have for goodness for our kids, our siblings and parents, for other family members, for dear friends, and everyone else we love.

Can you think of any other categories of ‘big stuff’ that I missed? (My Big Seven could become my Big Eight or my Big Nine, although there’s a ring to Big Seven, don’t ya think?)

Anyway, why is it so hard to attract the big stuff?

Because we attract/create/manifest with our SOULS, not our MINDS, and what our souls want, above all else, is to awaken!!!! So your mind might be longing for you to find your life partner, but your soul is longing for a fulfilling connection with the Oneness, All That Is, the Divine. And your soul says, “Hmmmm, I think she’ll find that fulfilling connection in her loneliness.”

I posted a long quote from a recent Martha Beck newsletter explaining this concept. And her own response to this is: “dammit.” Yep, it’s hard to not get what our minds want.

Thoughts? Your stories about this?  Join me on the Facebook group, How to Create a Magical Life.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/CreateYourMagicalLife/

More About Taking Responsibility for Everything in Your Life

This is a continuation of my post from July 10th, so if you haven’t read that one, you might want to start there.

When I first heard the concept of taking responsibility for absolutely everything in my life, it made me effin’ mad. Okay, so I could see taking responsibility for my own shit, which was hard enough because it meant I needed to stop whining about it and DO something to change what could be changed. And I could also see that taking responsibility for my ATTITUDE about everything in my life could be a healthy thing.

But what in the world did it mean to take responsibility for, say, terrorist attacks (a sensitive issue for me because I’m a survivor of a grenade attack by an early Al-Qaeda group that killed 2 of my friends and left me with shrapnel to this day). What did it mean to take responsibility for all the domestic violence of the world, the homeless and mentally ill guy panhandling at the intersection, the sleazy politicians, global warming, and on and on.

Take responsibility for things completely beyond my control? It just plain didn’t make any sense to me.

But I was first hearing about the concept in the context of learning about a man named Dr. Hew Len, a psychologist working in a facility for the criminally insane in Hawaii. It sounds like it was about as dark and dismal as it gets in that prison. I can’t remember the whole story (you can Google his name and ho’oponopono to find it) but he started doing something seemingly pointless with each of the inmates. He would take their case files, one by one, and say:

I’m sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.

As he did this, it apparently brought up a lot of his shit, because he said about that time, “I worked on myself.”

And the situation in the prison completely turned around.

So…what is it and how does it work? The technique of using these four phrases and taking responsibility for everying in your life is now called ‘ho’oponopono,’ although it sounds like that word actually refers to a bigger process of reconciliation in Hawaiian culture.

Let me walk you through an example of how I do the process, and what comes up for me.

I have a friend with a grown son who is schizophrenic. I’ve known him since he was a boy, and he’s very frequently on my heart. I ache for him, and for the people who love him.

But how do I TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for his disease? And why should I? I didn’t have anything to do with creating it!!!

Yet here’s what happens in my heart when I say those four phrases, from a place of willing openness to accept my responsibility for creating him and his disease in my life:

“Devon [not his real name], I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Please forgive me for any way, however subtle and sneaky and hidden from my conscious mind, that I may have wanted someone with a mental illness in my life so that I could feel safe in my own mental health. Please forgive me for any icky fascination or curiosity I have with mental illness that discounts you as a person. Please forgive me for being part of a society that doesn’t know how to help you. Please forgive me for every time I’ve had anything but love in my heart for anyone who shares your disease — the smelly homeless guy, the woman talking to herself on the corner. Please forgive me for all the ways I’ve scorned or discounted someone with your disease, or gotten a subtle ego-boost out of thinking I was better, healthier, more valuable than them. I’m so sorry, so very sorry I’m part of a culture that isn’t conscious enough to help you become the shaman or priest you’re probably meant to be. Thank you for all you’re teaching me — to love even the most complicated people in my life. Thank you for your sweetness and your seeking soul. I love you. I love you.”

Even as I typed that paragraph, it became a prayer, an outpouring of my energy toward him and every other mentally ill person who has walked their tortured path through life.

Has Devon become mentally healthier because I’ve been speaking these four phrases over him regularly? No, not in any outwardly obvious way. But I’ve taken responsibility by holding him in my heart, by sending him as much love and healing energy as I know how to send, and by holding his family in my heart. And it’s made me hold many other people with mental illnesses in my heart too.

But you didn’t FIX anything, you say.

I don’t have an answer for that. But I challenge you to try saying these four phrases to all the situations and people that are causing you pain, and just see what happens. You may experience yourself becoming empowered in some magical way, and you may experience something change outwardly.

And for those of you whose hearts are aching with the pain of things that ‘happened to you,’ please know that I’m holding you in my heart right now. I’m sorry — sorry for the pain in your life. Please forgive me for being part of the whole of humanity that is mostly unconscious. Please forgive me for my shadow parts, and the ways that my shadow parts have injured you. Thank you. Thank you for being my teacher. Thank you for bearing your particular pain right now, because it caused me in this moment to seek to be gentler toward you and everyone. I love you. I love you. I love you.

Want to talk about this more?  Join me in my Facebook group, How to Create a Magical Life.

Are You Part of the Healing Team?

I had a really weird spiritual experience yesterday, which I’m not ready to talk about here yet.  But I was thinking just now about how grateful I am that I have a circle of trusted people in my life that I will be telling this experience to, and asking them what they make of it.
Do you long for that safe inner circle?  Do you feel like an oddball sometimes, like you experience things that you can’t explain?  Do you yearn for deeper connection with the divine, even if you don’t know quite what you mean by that?  And do you sense you have something big to give to the world, but you have no idea how to bring it into existence?
I sent an email a few days ago with this list of traits that might show you that you’re part of the Healing Team.  Here it is again:
  • A sense of having a specific mission or purpose involving a major transformation in human experience, but being unable to articulate what this change might be.
  • High levels of empathy; a sense of feeling what others feel.
  • An urgent desire to lessen or prevent suffering for humans, animals, or even plants.
  • Loneliness stemming from a sense of difference, despite generally high levels of social activity.
  • High creativity; passion for music, poetry, performance, or visual arts.
  • An intense love of animals, sometimes a desire to communicate with them.
  • Difficult early life, often with a history of abuse or childhood trauma.
  • Intense connection to certain of natural environments, such as the ocean, mountains or forest.
  • Resistance to orthodox religiosity, paradoxically accompanied by a strong sense of either spiritual purpose or spiritual yearning.
  • Love of plants and gardening, to the point of feeling empty or depressed without the chance to be among green things and/or help them grow.
  • Very high emotional sensitivity, often leading to predilections for anxiety, addiction, or eating disorders.
  • Sense of intense connection with certain cultures, languages, or geographic regions.
  • Disability, often brain-centered (dyslexia, retardation, autism), in oneself or a loved one. Fascination with people who have intellectual disabilities or mental illness.
  • Apparently gregarious personality contrasting with deep need for periods of solitude.
  • Persistent or recurring physical illness, often severe, with symptoms that fluctuate inexplicably.
  • Daydreams (or night dreams) about healing damaged people, creatures, or places.
If you’re saying, “That’s me!” to a lot of these, chances are you’re a ‘Wayfinder.’  Wayfinders are the people who would have been the priests and priestesses, the shamans, the healers and medicine people in other cultures.  The oracles of wisdom.  The conduits of the divine to the human realm.
If that’s you but you feel stuck in living out this calling, please oh PLEASE join me for 5 weeks for a journey together through “Finding Your Way in a Wild New World” by Martha Beck.  The world needs the gifts you have to bring, and this interactive group can help you develop them.
There are still places available, but I’ve been talking with quite a few people who have expressed interest so don’t procrastinate!  We start on Thursday, July 13th!
  • Lots of interaction, discussion, questions and coaching on the live calls, and all the calls will be recorded to you can listen later if you like
  • A closed Facebook group where you can connect with me and all the other participants, and process what you’re learning and experiencing
  • A 60-minute 1-on-1 coaching session over the phone with me, which will be scheduled after the 5 sessions to help you apply all that you learned – and hey, that in itself makes this a great deal.I normally charge $125 for a session so you’re basically getting all the rest for twenty-five bucks!
So do you want to take the leap?  I guarantee it will be a fun, exciting and insightful ride.  Here is the link to leap with us:

What If YOU Created Everything, Both Good & Bad, In Your Life?

What would happen if you took responsibility for EVERYTHING in your life, the things you like and the things you don’t like?
 
I mean REALLY take responsibility, and acknowledge that you created them?
 
When I first came across this concept, it totally pissed me off. If you’re feeling your hackles rise already, hang with me here, and let me give an example.
 
What if you’re headed home from work, and the traffic just sucks?
 
What if YOU create this reality??????
 
But I wouldn’t create THAT, you say indignantly. Who wants a traffic jam and a crappy drive home at the end of the day?
 
Just humor me here for a minute, and let’s play with ways and reasons maybe you did actually create this reality. First, on the most practical, concrete level, you chose to live in the place you live, you chose to have a job that you have to drive to, and you chose to go to work today instead of calling in sick. And you are choosing to drive home now, during rush hour, instead of leaving early or staying late. You might be saying, but I HAD to do all that because I’ve got a child to get home to and rent to pay. But go deep here: there’s an accumulation of your choices that add up to this moment. You chose to not abort that child. You chose to say yes to the job you have. It was all your choices that brought you to this very moment of sitting in stopped traffic! You’re really powerful! You created this moment!
 
And another concrete aspect: you are driving a car, right? So you’re the person that the guy in the car behind you subconsciously thinks is causing the back-up. He thinks you’re a powerful creator of this traffic jam (along with every other driver).
 
What if there are some deeper reasons that you created this reality right now? Depending on your worldview, what if you’ve been praying for patience, or you made a soul contract before you came into this world that you would learn patience this time around? And what if you’re feeling desperate to be able to be more patient and gentle with that child you’re going home to, who you love something fierce but she’s at THAT age? What if you created this reality to give yourself a chance to practice being patient?
 
This post has gotten really long, so I’m not going to give you one of the tools I use. I’ll save it for later today or tomorrow. For now, just ponder this idea of taking full responsibility for EVERYTHING in your reality field.
And make sure you don’t miss out on my next installment!  I’m posting each of these blogs first on my new Facebook group, How to Create a Magical Life.  Come join me!

How to Create a Magical Life

Here’s what I’ve been thinking about and pondering the past few weeks. Let me see if I can write it in a way that makes sense — and if it doesn’t make sense, challenge me! I’m still getting my head around this idea.
 
Let’s start with the idea that our thoughts create our reality. It doesn’t really matter HOW you think that happens. It could be that you believe sort of an energetic model that our thoughts are energy and so is everything else, and there’s power in our thoughts to shift energy in various directions. It could be that you believe in a divine being or a loving universe who answers prayers — i.e., responds to our thoughts. (I think I believe some mixture of those two ideas). Or you could simply take a more material, scientific view that some human somewhere what to think of (imagine) your car before it came into existence, the clothes you’re wearing, etc. And tell me where I’m wrong, but I’m guessing that most of us could agree that whether we choose to think positively or negatively about a situation has a huge effect on how we experience it — in other words, we change situations simply by how we think about them.
 
Anyway, if our thoughts create our reality, then why to we so often not get the good things we want? Let’s say, for example, that you’re longing and longing for a life partner. You dream about (think about, imagine) her or him constantly. You can FEEL what it would be like to have them in your life. Maybe you do specific exercises to try to manifest them, like writing out all the qualities you want in them. And you do all kinds of self-work to be a good, loving partner.
 
Nuthin’.
 
So here’s one of the things that I think is going on that blocks us. When we focusing so much on the asking part, what’s actually going on inside us is that we’re truly focusing more on the LACK OF WHAT WE WANT. All that longing and wanting actually highlights the gap between our life as it is now, and the dream of what it would be like with the awesome partner. So we THINK we’re putting out energy to the universe of what we want, or we THINK we’re praying for what we want, but WE’RE ACTUALLY JUST FIXATING ON WHAT WE DON’T HAVE!!!!!!!
 
All that wanting and longing is actually just more scarcity thinking!
 
And this applies whether you want that life partner, a better job, more money, to follow your life’s purpose, or whatever.
 
ASKING usually makes most of us feel our lack more acutely!!!!!
 
So what to do?
 
Just for a day or two, try this: focus on the fact that YOU ARE A MAGICAL BEING, and you’re creating a magical life for yourself, but set aside your specific desires for the moment. (You can have them all back once you’ve tried this experiement.) 🙂 Just become aware of everything you’re creating around you — the things you want and the things you don’t want. Just pay attention. “Hey, I just manifested that!!!!! Wow!!!” Or “Eeewwwww, I just manifested that. I need to take responsibility. What do I need to learn or change so I don’t to THAT again.”
 
If you try this, let us know what happens! I’ve been playing with it for a few weeks, and I am in awe of what I’m manifesting in my life just by letting go of the specifics.
If this resonated with you, come join my Facebook group, How to Create a Magical Life!  https://www.facebook.com/groups/CreateYourMagicalLife/

Feeling stressed this morning? Anxious? Overwhelmed? Scattered?

You know how sometimes it feels like your mind just, well, has a mind of its own?  You don’t seem to have any control over all your thoughts – they just go spinning and spiraling into all kinds of dark places.
  • OMG, what if that weird lump is cancer?
  • OMG, I’m not gonna have enough money for the mortgage.
  • OMG, he/she doesn’t love me anymore.
  • You’re too fat.
  • You’re stupid.
  • You’re too old.
And blah, blah, blah and on and on.  Right?  Whatever your preferred ‘bad voices’ say to you, when they get going, you don’t stand a chance of making them shut up.
You maybe even know logically that what you’re thinking isn’t true, but it FEELS so true.
Want some tools to help you find peace up there in your head?
I’m giving my free class, “Wordlessness:  Finding the Peaceful Place in Your Brain,” in just about one hour via conference call, and it’s not too late to join me!  (Wouldn’t an hour on the phone be worth it if you could go away with some tools to help you quiet those voices?)
Thursday, June 29th, 2017 at:
  • 11:30am Eastern Time
  • 10:30am Central Time,
  • 9:30am Mountain Time
  • 8:30am Pacific Time
Intrigued?  You can still get in. But you need to hop over here RIGHT NOW to register, and once you do, you’ll get an email with all the dial-in info.

Hope you can join me!

Becoming Magic: the First Step

I’ve wanted to be magic my whole life. 

I’ve wanted the world to be magical.  I’ve wanted a magical God, who did real miracles.  And I wanted to understand the intersection of magic and science, or what I would now call spirituality and science.  Mental telepathy, the energy of crystals, people getting healed through laying on of hands, astrology – all of it have fascinated me since I was a child.

Do you relate?

If I had been born into a culture other than ours, some adult would have probably realized early on that I was called to be a ‘Wayfinder’ – a medicine woman, a priestess, a shaman, a healer.  I would have been schooled in the technologies of magic – given tools to match my curiosity and desire.  But that component of mentoring is missing from our culture, so those of us who are born knowing we’re light workers have to chart our own course through a lot of possibilities.  It’s taken me years, but I’ve gradually found my way toward my own true north.  I’ve found my way to becoming a modern-day Wayfinder.

If you’re resonating with this, I want to help you find YOUR way!

You wanna know when things started getting different (and lots better) for me?  Really different?  When I encountered, over the past few years, various authors and teachers who had delved deeply into that place where magic and science intersect.  And one of the books that has been most transformative has been “Finding Your Way in a Wild New World” by Martha Beck.  As a sociologist, she researched commonalities found among the training and work of ‘Wayfinders’ of many cultures, and discovered that the first step of becoming magic is learning to drop into what she calls, ‘Wordlessness,’ a state where we’re thinking in images, not words.

Wordlessness as a skill is useful on all kinds of levels.  It’s wonderful to live inside a brain/mind that’s not constantly spinning with thoughts.  So you may want to sign up for my free class just to learn this one piece.  But if you have a hunch you might be one of these Wayfinders I’m talking about, learning Wordlessness is essential for all the rest of what you’re called to do.

No, I haven’t managed to manifest everything single thing I ever wanted.  I haven’t yet levitated or walked on coals.  But I have seen a lot of miracles, a lot of answered prayers, a lot of synchronicities.  I have bent a stainless steel spoon, experiencing it become soft and warm in my hands and agreeing to bend for me.  I’ve been out hiking and called coyotes and snakes to show themselves…and seen them.  I’ve experienced energy flowing out of my hands to heal others.

And you?  Have you been longing for magic your whole life?  Even if you’re feeling a little sheepish to admit it?  Or maybe you haven’t quite stepped into your magical self, but you’ve stuck a big toe in and you want more.  Or perhaps you’re well acquainted with the frustration of believing in magic but not seeing results.

It’s time for a growth spurt!  That’s why I’ll be teaching a one-hour FREE class via teleconference.  This training, called “Wordlessness:  Finding the Peaceful Place in Your Brain,” is for you if you know you’re one of those Wayfinders, or you’re a Wayfinder Wannabe — you know you’re called to be a magical being — you want to accept the call — you want to grow!  This class is also for you if you simply are sick of the endlessly whirling thoughts in your head, and you’d just like a little peace and quiet up there.

I hope you’ll join me live on this call:

Date:  Thursday, June 29th, 2017
  • 11:30am Eastern Time
  • 10:30am Central Time,
  • 9:30am Mountain Time
  • 8:30am Pacific Time

The call will be recorded if you can’t make it live, but you gotta sign up to get the recording.

Sign up HERE!

Believing in YOU and your infinite, glorious, magical self,
Cynthia

Doing Manifesting Wrong

I have a great business accountability partner.  We talk each week about what we accomplished in the previous week, what we procrastinated on, what didn’t go so well and what flowed.  We set commitments for ourselves for the coming week.  And we talk about what we want to manifest.

For 4 or 5 weeks, I’ve been trying to manifest the same thing.  And it hasn’t happened.  Finally, rather than just putting it on my list of commitments again, and feeling frustrated again, I asked my partner if she had any insight into why it wasn’t happening for me.

And we figured out that it was because I didn’t have that deep knowing that what I wanted to manifest already WANTED to happen.  What do I mean by that?  Back in my charismatic Christian days, I would have said that I had heard the voice of God about it — God was already speaking the thing into existence.  Martha Beck says that she drops into the Everywhen and discovers something wants to happen.  You might feel it as that gut feeling or that knowing that just dropped into your intuition:  you know that you know that a certain thing is coming your way.

But whatever we call it, it’s the same thing:  you have a knowing in your know that something wants to come into existence.  So then the ‘manifesting’ part becomes simply the faith that you’ve already seen it, and you can trust that it will be.

My problem was that I didn’t have the knowing about what I wanted to manifest these past few weeks.  I hadn’t taken the time to ask the divine what was waiting to be created.  I hadn’t dropped into the Everywhen to see what wanted to happen.  Instead of co-creating something based on a deep knowing, I was trying to force a good idea to happen.

It doesn’t work.

So my commitment for this week is to take the time to — whatever you want to call it —  listen to the voice of God, drop into the Everywhen, check in with your knower — about what wants to happen regarding this particular thing.

I’ll let you know what happens.